Archive for January, 2008

Pitching Season

Tuesday, January 29th, 2008

Spring’s just around the corner, and with it comes a slew of conferences where you can pitch your project to editors and agents. For those of you ready to step up and try this, I recommend reading Making the Perfect Pitch. It was one of my first pitching reference titles, and I liked it so much it became my favorite.

Some writers say they’d never have enough courage to pitch face-to-face to an agent or editor, and prefer to send masses of query letters instead. But in my opinion, there’s so much to be learned about an individual as a writer and a business person that you just can’t communicate on the page. Your sense of confidence, self-presentation, personality and energy come across when you meet a person face-to-face. My first pitching experience turned out really well, and I think it’s because I took the time to read a few books on the techniques and what to expect when pitching.

Pitching for the first time is a writerly milestone, much like my first book signing was. To have enough confidence in yourself and your skills as a writer to look someone in the eye and give them the power to say yea or nay to your precious project requires some cojones, but it’s something every writer should be able to do.

So if you’re still looking for a New Year’s resolution, learning to pitch is a great place to start. As for me, I have my hands full excavating my desk from the rubble of summer travel/fall travel/Christmas excess/closet-cleaning casualties…

The Sagging Middle and the Nugget of Truth

Thursday, January 24th, 2008

Many of us writers suffer from the problem of the sagging middle. Physically, some of us put on a little holiday weight and are dreading the imminent snackfest-cum-beerfest of Super Bowl Sunday. But what I’m talking about for novelists is the place around page 100 of your novel when your characters begin to seem stilted and the words coming from your fingertips seem lackluster and trite. For short story writers, it’s the story that won’t seem to come together thematically, that lacks “oomph.” The sagging middle.

My answer to this problem is one of general avoidance. I put the manuscript away, start another story, head to the gym, or spend an hour searching for useless stuff on eBay. However, before I start my avoidance, I now send my work off to a trusted colleague and editor for review. A little while later, she sends it back with comments—lots and lots of comments. I nurse my wounds for a day or so (because let’s be honest, any truthful and incisive critique of our work hurts at the beginning), let her comments sink in, and come to the same conclusion almost every time: I need to dig deeper.

Most of my writing is intensely personal, and my characters are usually amalgams of people I have encountered in my life. Like Flaubert, I am often all-too-present in the tortured protagonists that populate my literary fiction. But for me, digging deep within my own psyche is the best way for me to come up with writing that is honest and that speaks the truth of the human experience.

In my search for that nugget of truth that says “yes” in my gut and breathes new life into my characters’ motivations, I must go to those dark places in my life. I have to examine the stuff that scares the crap out of me, things that break my heart, things that kindle a rage in me no one should ever see. Our society tells us to moderate those feelings, and as law-abiding citizens we should. But as writers, we must put aside the fear of delving inside ourselves and look, as Robert Olen Butler says, “without flinching.”

Let go of the desire to control your characters. Let them out of their boxes. Even if they don’t follow your tidy outline, they’ll reveal a greater richness if you allow them to move freely throughout your imaginary landscape. Cull and trim later, after you’ve found your nugget of truth.

New Book Signing

Wednesday, January 23rd, 2008

Hi all,

Just a quick note to let you know that I’ll be doing another book signing on March 29th in my hometown of College Station, Texas. I guess I can *finally* say I have a book “tour” now! Hmm, I wonder if I should print up some Coach’s Midnight Diner Tour T-shirts…

Also, in other news, the photo gallery at Relief Journal has been taken off the front page of the editor’s blog, and we’ve been running into a few formatting problems with older browsers, so I’ve made another photo gallery at my MySpace page. Click on the MySpace link in my blogroll to hop on over there if you so desire.

Cheers!

Song to the Moon, Part II

Tuesday, January 22nd, 2008

Hey you romantics out there, tonight’s the full moon again, and I’ve got another rendition of “Song to the Moon” you might like. This one’s from an instrumental album, but I’m sure you’ll agree that a melody this beautiful needs no words. Those of you interested in viewing an English translation can go to this link.

Does the full moon affect you? For me, it draws my spirit upward toward the sky, and I feel a bit like my soul stretches up and connects with the heavens. My mind’s eye sees further, and my creative powers come into sharper focus. Tonight, go outside and bask in the moonlight. Let it help you connect with your soulful side. Take a moment this evening and let the beauty of the moon inspire you.

The Chill Factor

Monday, January 21st, 2008

One of my former career ambitions was to be a singer. And now, after my first bout of laryngitis, my singing voice still hasn’t returned. My usually pleasant shower singing and impromptu ipod karaoke sessions have turned into what sound like death matches between baby seals. All this squawking and yelping is driving me crazy.

Normally, I would be petrified that I’ve somehow permanently damaged my vocal cords. But singing isn’t my life anymore, and I’m not worried. Maybe this illness is exactly what I needed to break those final emotional ties to a life that isn’t mine anymore. This, of course, does NOT mean that I don’t share the same morbid fascination with American Idol that the rest of the country seems to enjoy. It’s fun watching people audition. I wait for what I call “The Chill Factor.”

You know—the goosebumps you get when you hear a voice with a certain quality to it that moves your soul and makes you tingly all over. I think the idea that an extraordinary person can rise out of the masses of obscurity to embrace his or her destiny, to be a part of something bigger than oneself, taps into a deep-seated human desire we all share. It’s the desire to be significant, to rise above our station, to become more than what we are: to experience a moment of greatness.

Goosebumps signal the presence of greatness. It happens when I watch an athlete perform like poetry in motion. It happens when I read about extraordinary acts of valor on the battlefield. It happens when I see a stroke patient come into my therapist’s office and walk out on her own power. It happens when I see the simple kindness of a man opening the door for an elderly woman at the post office.

Greatness is around us all the time. We just have to open our eyes to it.

Let the world and the people around you move you today. You’ll get a little chill when you sense the presence of greatness.

Sleepless Nights

Thursday, January 17th, 2008

I was up all last night with back pain. These spells don’t happen very often, but coughing for two weeks straight takes a toll on this bag o’ bones. My voice teacher once told me it is possible to pull a stomach muscle by coughing. Luckily, no injuries of that nature this time, but I think my liver and kidneys need a break from the veritable pharmacopeia of Codeine, Dex, and antihistamines I’ve been pumping through them of late.

These sleepless nights give me time to be quietly introspective (well, ok, groaning and sighing aside). They help me look back on just how far I’ve come. The pain, when it comes, is frighteningly familiar. It threatens to suck me back into the pit of despair. But now I realize we all need times to remember our personal sob story. Everyone has one, whether we admit it or not. We need to be reminded of the struggles we’ve overcome, so we can gain a better perspective on the struggles we will face in the future. We need to realize that we’re not alone in our suffering, and our situation could most likely be much worse.

When I put my pain into this framework, I realize how blessed I am to have those sleepless nights. Now I try to use them to remember and pray for other people in my life. It works because it takes your mind off yourself. I challenge you to try this next time you’re up at night, worried about something at work, your finances, or your child’s last report card. Take that energy and channel it into something more productive than self-pity, anger, or self-doubt. Take comfort in the truth that you’re not alone. Open your heart up. You’ll feel the rest of us insomniacs praying for you.

Paying it Forward

Tuesday, January 15th, 2008

After the hoopla has worn off and the shiny newness of a milestone has been absorbed, the fact of the matter is that we all move on. People forget. Things return to the status quo. I have to go back to my day job. Is this sense of denouement and a few happy memories all that remain of the book signing? For me, perhaps. But I believe there are people I will never know whose lives will be touched by the event. People who are two and three degrees removed from the people I physically met at the signing. If my words touch a life, that life will go on to touch another, and another. I’ll never know the true significance of that evening. But I believe.

One of my pastors in college once told a story about an ordinary man who was packing up a crate of books to ship to a missionary pastor overseas. He’d scrimped and saved and finally had enough money to buy a new pair of glasses. As he leaned over to pack up the box, the glasses fell out of his chest pocket and into the crate. After the crate was sealed up and already on its way across the ocean, the man realized he’d lost his glasses. Understandably, he was frustrated and a bit angry with himself for being so careless. Now he had no glasses, and there was no way to retrieve them.

A few weeks later, as he was sitting in church, the man listened to the pastor read a letter from the missionary who’d received the package. He thanked them for the new glasses he’d found in the crate, saying he’d been praying for new glasses, and these were the exact prescription he needed.

I believe that regardless of our station or our lot, we are used as instruments of divine love and compassion. Sometimes, I think society encourages us to stifle the reflex, that urge to help someone, say something nice, go the extra mile for others. We don’t want people to stare at us. But whether we’re Mother Teresa or Tom the video store guy, we are gifted at times to be givers of hope and healing. We may never know the impact of just doing our job, as the man in the story did. But isn’t it great to know that one tiny little thing we take for granted as being a part of our daily routine–one gesture, one smile–can change a life and the course of human history forever?

Give in to the voice inside you and be an instrument of hope today. You might just change someone’s life.

Book Signing

Friday, January 11th, 2008

I know many of you are waiting with bated breath to find out how my author event went this evening. One quick aside, then I’ll tell the story. Remember the theme of my last post? Even when I don’t see, I still believe?

Be careful what you post, because God may hold you to it. So everything is going fine, I’m thoroughly drugged up on cough syrup, got my throat lozenges, my bottle of water, everything’s A-OK. Then, when I start to read the first line of my story, I have a technical malfunction with my contact lenses. Blame it on the dry winter air or the antihistamines, but both of my contacts rotated off center (those with astigmatism know what I’m talking about), and I literally CAN’T SEE. Oh, I can see the lines of text, but I can’t read them.

Blinking doesn’t help. I can’t read. But just then I realize, I am reading, smoothly and perfectly, calm as can be, and somehow I know what the text says because I’m reading it even though I’m blind. A moment of panic, then a peace from within. And I just let go. My voice holds up right until the very end of the second reading, then quits for the book signing.

Results of the evening? A smashing success, even by Barnes & Noble standards. We sold through nearly the entire quantity of books they ordered—only one left over. The audience was standing-room only, and nearly everyone who came bought at least one copy of the book. The bookstore manager in charge of author events proclaimed it “awesome” and invited me back whenever I have another book to promote.

Could I have done this alone, on my own power? No. God sure does have a funny sense of humor sometimes. I guess He just wanted to make sure I knew He was in charge.

So the moral of the story is: Even when you can’t see, just believe!

P.S. Check out my interview and photos from the event.

 

 

Even When I Don’t See

Tuesday, January 8th, 2008

I think I ought to write a new self-help book entitled, How to Lose 5 Pounds and Tone Your Core Abs in Just 7 Days with the Upper Respiratory Illness Workout.

Seriously, being sick is getting really old. I’m at the point now where I still believe, but this is where the rubber meets the road. I am uncertain of the outcome of the book signing I’ve idealized as a writing milestone. I’ve visualized it, owned it, embraced it, and now—this. Will my voice be as I want it to be? Will I be able to control my hacking cough so as not to drive away the people who come to hear me read? I don’t know.

But as I sit here, housebound again because of dangerously high levels of ECT pollen (forecast to be high for the rest of the week), I realize that in order for this to be a success in my mind, I have to let go of the outcome, and I must focus on the journey. The experience itself of doing what I’ve dreamed of–setting a goal and achieving it. Whoever comes, will come. Whoever leaves, will leave. Whoever buys a book, will buy a book. I can’t write any of these outcomes by sheer willpower alone.

Jeremy Camp’s song, “I Still Believe” is playing on my stereo. My situation is not nearly as dire as his was, losing a spouse to cancer. But I think we all feel like the world is against us at times. We all feel discouraged and don’t know if we have the strength to keep holding our heads high. But “even when I don’t see, I still believe.”

What is your discouragement today? Whatever it is, hang onto hope, and believe.

Go Ahead, Make My Day

Friday, January 4th, 2008

Today, as I was sulking because I’m sick and my voice is completely gone and I can’t do anything I’d planned, I opened a care package from a friend of mine in Italy, filled with little holiday candies called torroncini. These sugary gems are made of nougat and pistachios and covered with different flavors of chocolate. Mmm-mmm. Christmas is, for me, incomplete without my torroncini, thoughtfully packaged and sent across the ocean every year from my friend.

This small gesture of appreciation and affection warms my heart and touches my soul. Here I am, rendered mute because of my illness, and a hand-written card and a few Italian sweets have totally made my day.

When was the last time you sent a handwritten note to someone? I think in this age of lightning-fast communications—email, texting, IM—we think that no one appreciates the impact of a hand-written missive. Not true. I save every hand-written card and note I receive, because I appreciate the time and effort it takes. It’s more personal, and it shows that you care.

Let’s all go back to pen and paper and write someone a note of thanks, encouragement, or friendship today. Who knows, you might end up making someone’s day.